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Custody Issues- Do You Give in When Ex Harasses? 
(Giving in when Ex Harasses; Giving Up)

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Mom is hell bent
From: A DAD
Remote Name: 24.208.147.181


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My son called me yesterday to beg me to stay at his Mothers. I let him. (His step-grandfather is sick) I have residential parent custody-his mother has BPD. I think everyone in her family must be dead because every time he stays with her, when it is time for him to come home there is always someone knocking at deaths door. Yet, no one ever dies. My son was hysterically crying (she works very hard at working him up to a near frenzy) She has filed for allocation of custody. I am about done. She has had childrens services at my house and done everything within her power to make my life a living hell. Usually using the law. She plays the victim in everything. In 1 year she lived with four different men, it was all their fault she had to move out. My son missed 89 days of school in 1 year, that was my fault (I'd like to know how since I wasn't around, she wouldn't let me see him) How do you keep going? I want the best for my son but I can't continually fight her, it is draining me, finacially and emotionally. My son wants to live with her and can give me no reason why. I spent $20,000 last time in court. I have had my son for the past five years, he is 12. Has anyone else signed over their rights to their child to stop the maddness? And was it the right dicision do you think? I know the court order would not be changed if I fight this. I just don't know if since he wants to stay with her (even I know it would finish any chance of a good background and education he might have) if it is worth fighting her and still have her constantly harrass me. Anyone with a similar?   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000004e3
Re: Mom is hell bent
From: adult daughter
Remote Name: 24.236.201.100

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I sincerely believe you will regret it. Read my July 25 post, "a sad ending".  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 000004ea
Re: Mom is hell bent
From: A DAD
Remote Name: 24.208.147.181

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Did your mother make your fathers life so hard that it came down to dealing with the police at every turn? I don't mean to sound harsh but, it comes down to me possibly ending up in jail over this.(what kind of relationship could I have with him in jail?) She lies at every turn and she gets my son to lie. (He lies and acts like it means nothing) (allegations of abuse and neglect that are proven false again and again, finanicially breaking me, each time it costs about $2,000 to get an attorney). I don't know what else to do. He says that I make his life miserable by fighting her for custody and he says he wants to live with her. I don't know what else to do. This woman is not right and would love nothing better than to see me in jail all because I don't want to have a relationship with her. She feels I should pay and one way or another she will make me pay (If only through our son).  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000005ad
Re: Mom is hell bent
From: alishaherbdaniel@yahoo.com
Remote Name: 169.139.113.14


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If you give up custody of your son, you will have justified everything his mother has accused you of. I am in my own battle across state lines, and like you, have over $20k in leagal bills. My former attorney stopped representing family cases because of my case. No matter the accusations, stay the course. Your son may not realize it until he is an adult, but he will eventually realize that you truly have an interest in his life, and no court of law can or ever will change that. -Still fighting for hope  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000005be
Re: Mom is hell bent
From: Mom of Condra
Remote Name: 128.58.89.3

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Why is he paying you support if he has custody now? Just curious    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000569
Re: Mom is hell bent
From: dadw/custody
Remote Name: 68.89.229.180

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i feel ur pain. keep fighting dcfs but she'll never make me give up. hope u don't either. hang tuff $$$ is just like her - evil  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000593
Re: Mom is hell bent
From: snuz2luz
Remote Name: 64.12.116.7

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my handicapped son went to live with his dad through an action that is basically a contempt of court issue. However, it is so much nicer having him gone than to have the daily conflict of him calling my ex who invariable stirred him up. I miss him sure, but I think he'll soon see that his dad isn't concerned for him. His dad actually admitted that he cuts his fingernails or they would be too messy. How is the kid ever going to get any independence that way? At the same time, ex says that he's sending him to college next year. Good luck finding one that will take him with his low grades and ACT scores. Just a fact of life. Dad took him from the best school system he was ever in and moved him back to a school that will just pass him on - just  to stop the child support. Well, I've found that the lack of responsibility is great. I understand your feelings in wanting to let the boy go with mom.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

 

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