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ex-husband teying to take my kids [ex-husband trying to take my kids]
From: Mel
Remote Name: 65.24.160.186

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My ex and I drew up our own dissolution in 1996, and were friends after. I remarried in 1999 and he remarried in 2001. As soon as he met his wife, things started going bad. She convinced him that our relationship was "sick" and was not normal. They started a campaign to alienate my 2 beautiful and loving kids from my husband (whom they had adored). Now that my husband is away on military duty, my kids have turned on me. They believe that their step-mom is a "kid expert" because she received an MA in social work 2 yrs ago, and believe everything that comes out of her mouth. My 10 yr old daughter told me last week that she's no longer my daughter- just her dad's- and I need to pretend she died in a car accident. We are coming to the end of an 18 month court battle that he initiated and has cost me $30,000. The GAL and 2 psychologists have all recognized what's gone on and support me, and are recommending I have sole custody again. My ex testified in deposition that he knew the allegations in his court affidavits for custody were untrue. What should I be expecting from the court? Everyone has been quick to tell me that even when I prevail, the alienation will not stop. What about supervised visitation, required counseling, and a court order for my attorney’s fees (since he admitted he lied as the basis for this suit)? Am I justified in considering moving out of state with my kids to get away from this? They are such great kids and I find myself not wanting to be around them because they have become so nasty and argumentative. I'm at the end of my rope.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Re: ex-husband teying to take my kids
From: Mom in sorrow
Remote Name: 66.185.85.69

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Your story is quite similar to mine. My original order was in 1996. After a lengthy custody battle I won custody. Over the years my ex has gradually taken my son away from me emotionally. For years I didn't realize what was going on until it was too late. I always thought he would get over our break up, like normal people do. Barry is not normal, and I shouldn't have expected anything less than the way I have been treated lately. We are back in court and have been since I started proceedings in January. I have not seen my son for six months now and our trial is coming up in October. I have done researce on PAS and I know that my son fits all criteria of this. I live in Canada and all systems operate under the mandate of the children's wishes. Does anyone know of any organization that operates under the mandate of speaking for children that are too afraid to speak the truth? Please contact me my email is schmo@rogers.com I know that giving this info may be a mistake but I am desperate. I need to speak to people that feel the same sorrow, and face the same obstacles as I face day to day. My son was born into abuse, I need to get him help but this seems impossible when I'm not even able to see him. Thanks for any help at all BB   (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 000004f0
Re: ex-husband teying to take my kids
From: ValGal
Remote Name: 67.171.149.190

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Wow, your situation sounds so similar to mine...things were relatively fine between me and my ex until the she-devil came into the picture...she has a BS in Psychology, working on a Masters in Elem. Education so gives the appearance of being oh-so-caring and so forth but she is EVIL personified. But for your situation, try to look at things from the perspective of what's best for your kids...they're nasty and argumentative because they are caught up in all the hoopla, no doubt, but will taking them out of the state make things better for THEM, or worse? And it's hard to predict what the court will say, I know from when I took my ex to court there was all this he said/she said business and the judges gave me the impression that they don't care so much about that as keeping parents out of their court...this appeared to me as indifference, but they hear so much drama and lies all the time, I guess I wouldn't want to be in their position either. Have you had a custody evaluation yet? That will definitely sway a judge one way or the other and will give direction. Good luck, let us know what happens.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  0000052c
Re: ex-husband teying to take my kids
From: mother going through the same thing with 13 yr old daughter
Remote Name: 150.142.233.194

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i am a mother of 2 girls 13 and 21 and was married to a verbally abusive man. he has alienated both of my children and taught them total disrespect for me....i have not seen my daughter(s) in months...i gave up custody of my younger daughter because of false allegations of abuse coming from her. thanks to her father it feels like death...i have a lawyer ..but need a better one ..i do not even have visatation at this point. please advise.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

 

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