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Post #  0000065f
Re: FATHERS OR MENS RIGHTS IN THIS COUNTRY
From: Tracyh974@netscape.com
Remote Name: 207.247.42.130

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I have been Searching for months to help my boy friend who lost his first daughter in a nasty custody battle. He now has a daughter out of a second relationship that he has stayed in purly because he wanted to maintain a family structure for his daughter. Now this woman mants no parts of him yet if she doesnt get her way, money, and health insurance for their child she denies him visitation. It is taring him apart he is an emotional wreck he will not be able to loose another child. What can a man do when he only wants to do what is right by his child?   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000005a6
Re: FATHERS OR MENS RIGHTS IN THIS COUNTRY
From: jeff_creedon@hotmail.com
Remote Name: 24.205.210.251

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Father's rights exist in this country and are shining as bright as a black hole. Not to bore you with my ordeal...if you really want to know email me...but a woman's word is gospel and a man can only lie. If a woman has no evidence that is OK because she can't lie anyway....if a man has evidence it is merely a coincedence or made up or not important enough for the judge to review. But THAT'S OK!!! Its not a problem that fatherless children are 37% more likely to do heroin or like 300% more likely to be in trouble with the law, because women's feeling are the most important thing on the planet...not the father's and definatly not the children's which is most important, at least in my lying, fantasy-oriented unimportant mind. As for all the step mother's out there, "Stand by your man" he doesn't love his children more than you, just differently and it will hurt just as much to him if your not there either.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 00000484
Re: FATHERS OR MENS RIGHTS IN THIS COUNTRY
From: scottlebeda@yahoo.com
Remote Name: 208.252.114.23

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I am a father with whom the Mother of my child does not let me see her and or will not force my daughter to come see me on my visitations. Every time I see my daughter she comes up to me and tells me she loves me and hugs me. But her mother has trained her not to call me. Not to like me. Its a mess when the father tries to disipline his kids, and the mother does not stand behind this then the children can do what ever they like, I have not seen my daughter in over a year now she is 12 years old. I love her very much, but the united states has taken all rights away from the father. I am stuck between spending monies that I dont have to see my daughter and not seeing her. All because of the United States and feminist laws. Without money Men have no rights. What Can I do?  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000450
Re:Family Law Court Decisions against men
From: hotrodtwo@hotmail.com
Remote Name: 202.94.65.96

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Hi my name is Rod I am 56 years of age. I served 20 years in the armed services. I have been on the veterans pension for the past 8 years due to my declining health. I have just gone through a property settlement with my ex wife. I had been in the Army for 13 years prior to getting married in 1980. The woman I married had two young girls, 7 and 9 years of age from her previous marriage. I had paid into a retirement fund over my time in the army so therefore had 13 years of acculmulated funds on marrying in 1980. I continued to pay until my retirement from the army in 1987. After 20 years I received about $45,000, which went into the constuction of our home. We then ran a couple of businesses for a few years. My wife worked for approximately the first two years of our marriage then gave it up due to me being posted to another position in the army. My wife had a property when we married it was valued at approximately $70,000. She rented that out for a number of years and sold it about 1987 for about $72,000. The funds from this sale were put into an account that my wife had in her maiden name. I was never privy to that information throughout our marriage, some may find that very strange. My wife was very secretive in her dealings and had, I would estimate, at least 10 bank accounts all in her maiden name through out our marriage. I do believe some of the funds were put towards the marriage at times. Over the period of our marriage, I supported her and her daughters for a number of years and some of the rental from her house paid for additional items. The remainder of day to day living expenses through out the marriage were funded from my wages from the Army. I inherited a bout $70,000 form my mothers and grandmothers estate in about 1994 this money was injected into our marriage. My wife used some of her funds to purchase a business. My wife inherited approximately $220,000 from her mothers estate in about 1998.That money was put into an account in her maiden name. We have a family home that is valued at between $400,000 and $450,000 with a mortgage, (A War Service Home Loan), of about $13,000 on it, which I might add was our only debt. This is a very brief outline of the circumstances. Lets not forget I provided for her and her two children for many years, and, might I add, there was no maintenance from her previous husband to help raise the two girls. Now lets see what she has got,a home worth lets say, $400,000 $over $200,000 in the bank, a car that I purchased, all of the furniture (entire household contents), lets say $10,000 would be underestimating the value. total of about $610,000. What I have after 23 years of marriage ,A car valued at $34,000, of which I owe $17,000 on, the clothes that I could pack into a bag when I was forced to leave the family home, and debts on my credit cards to the tune of $8,000, due to expenses from being excluded from the matrimonial home. I also have superanuation that was valued at $250,000. I must add I can never get this money in a lump sum it is payed to me every fornight to the total of approximately $15,000 per year. It is until I die, so If I happen to die tomorrow it is finished , so the super is only really worth what I receive each week. When I retired from the army in 1987 I started to receive my super of about $500 per fortnight that to might add was injected into the marriage.  My wife over the period of the marriage handled all of the funds. In addition I have a legal bill of approximately $41,000. I receive the TPI pension for war related illnesses of approximately $400 per week. At the moment I am living with my adult son. I am unable to afford to go into private rental as I cannot raise the funds to cover the bond money. I will never be able to purchase another home as I am on a pension and my age is a barrier as well the banks would be reluctant to lend me any significant amount of money. I want to know where is the justice in this country?? This was the decision handed down by the family law court by Justice [last name removed] in Sydney. If you think this a fair decision please say so. That the wife pay me $84,000 I sign over the house to her and she gets the rest. Tell me do I have the right to be bitter?  Why was I born a man?? Is it asking too much to expect things to be divided equally and fairly?? Are there any other avenues I can take this to.? I have run out of finances as you can see. There is a lot more to the story but I would need to write a novel to cover it all ! If you would like to contact me for further detail I will only be to glad to give it to you. I hope I haven't just sounded like another bitter husband . Any advice you may be offer me would be gratefully accepted. News Flash I have just been informed that not only do I have to pay my legal fees of approximately $42,000 I may be responsible for hers of approximately $30,000 so out of a pool of about $750,000 I will end up in my pocket the grand total of about $14,000 not a bad result for 23 years of hard work. The judgement makes note of the wife being able to live nice and comfortable in a debt free home for the rest of her days. I just wonder where I am going to live. The judge took the wife's valuation of the matrimonial home as right and disregarded my valuers all together. The judge in his wisdom pushed aside the sum of $42.000 that was supposedly given away at my request. I would think that if that was the case I would have told her to pay the mortgage on the home of approximately $13,000 not give it to her sisters children and sister. My evidence was largely disregarded. When I was forced to leave the home I did not take any of our personal records with me so therefore I am disadvantaged once again. I was unable to obtain lots of documents I may have needed as they were in the family home. My wife had access to all of the documents to prepare her case, she even had a receipt for the sum of $6.40 being for a cork notice board that she purchased. Makes one wonder. I just wonder what I am going to do for accommodations in the future?  maybe another homeless man. Regards Rod .   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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