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Post # 0000061a
how can i get any visits with my son?
From: mike zaborowski chesterton IN
Remote Name: 165.139.45.253

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my soon to be ex and I are going throu a divorce. On nov. 2nd she left with my,then, 2 month old son. We filed for divorce after she filed for a protective order. After hacking into my e-mail and printing out a spam e-mail from an adult magazine-she took that to the cops saing that i sent it to her. Shortly after that she cancelled the P.O. came knocking at my door. When I called the cops to escort her off my property- the cops arrested ME. All of this will come out in court but meanwhile I'm the one who feels like i'm bieng harassed. When I tried to get a P.O. or at least a no-contact order the court denyed me one. On the 10th of this month We finally got to go to court for the preliminary hearing. The judge granted her tempory custody and set up visits for me until a parental advisor could make there report for the judge to see. Although I've been paying child support, my Ex is still denying me any visits- in fact today was a perfect example. My lawyer had spoken to her laywer to set up a visit sceduale, my Ex suggested that while she is in classes I could have my visits. She suggested meeting at the school for both the drop-off and pick-up. When I got there today, after waiting a half hour past when she suggested the pick-up time was, she shows up-with out my son. When I asked her if I would be able to see my son she said"sure, just wait a sec. and i'll have him up here." She called the cops and said I was harassesing her and that "you will never see your son again." I should add that in Dec. my son was admitted to the hospital whith a diagnosis of "failure to thrive" and the on the 14th of Jan. he was seen in the emergancy room with 2 cuts on his head and a large bruse and lump. This was supposedly coused by someone throwing a phone at my son and hitting him in the head. If there is anyone out there with any help or advice please feel free to contact me at mrz_33@yahoo.com. Iwould appeciate any and all help thoughts or support from any one- becouse I'm feeling kinda lost and alone. thank you   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  00000623
Re: how can i get any visits with my son?
From: Milwaukee Dad
Remote Name: 152.132.8.194

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Mike: Your situation is a difficult one, here we have a baby that is being used as a tool instead of being treated as a baby against you. Advise, this is very important!!!!!! Please keep a daily log of phone calls, meetings with your ex. Please carry a small recorder to tape your meetings, its not against the law to tape a person if your face to face. You don't have to tell them either. Its for your protection. The log will serve as two things: one is that it is record, because you can't remember everything, two- it will take your mind busy. Your son is suffering because of your soon to be ex own shortcomings. If you have the insurance please talk to someone on what is going on. It's not a sign of weakness or failure, their are no heros in a divorce, if you think your going to come out of this unmarked, please think again. I hope this a start for you, please keep the group posted on how you are doing. Please remember this because a father told me this " TIME IS YOUR FRIEND, THE TRUTH WITHSTANDS TIME". Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 0000061b
Re: how can i get any visits with my son?
From: mom who lost to abusive husband
Remote Name: 150.142.234.30

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get a good lawyer immediately, you have rights which are violated. the case could go in your favor ,,her actions speak louder than words, let her continue and build a case, record telephone conversations if you can. video tape her ..good luck  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

 

 

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