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Post # 0000047a
PAS attorney in Colorado Springs
Remote Name: 188.8.131.52
By the way, our attorney in Co Springs was awsome, hung in there with us as long as she could until we just couldn't pay her anymore. M. Patricia Marrison, Attorney at Law (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 0000047c
Re: PAS Knowledgeable Attorney?
Remote Name: 184.108.40.206
I am looking for PAS attorney in St. Clairsville, Oh, Columbus, Oh or Pittsburgh, PA as these cities nearby. Tell me your experience, we are going through this with our son's wife. 2 children. terrible (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )
Post # 000009bf
Re: PAS Knowledgeable Attorney?
Remote Name: 220.127.116.11
What is a PAS Attorney? Do we have any rights as Grandparents today when our children refuse to let us see our grandchildren? (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
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Post # 000000a3
Need IOWA attorney (strong) and PAS therapist
Time: 7:53:34 PM
Remote Name: 18.104.22.168
CONVOLUTED CASE. My husband has not seen his son for 9 yrs., son refused... when he was 5 (he has had no male father figure just a gay grandfather). The mother(attorney)has brainwashed him to believe there was sexual abuse (she is the one who was abused as a child), ran public ads and other stuff,Child believes it (in front of her psychologist 9yrs ago). Never proven in court it was a "strike that your honor" move. Then showed the child where it was "filed" in the complaint (no merit) X-wife knows all the moves, tricks, timing, papertrade, etc. She manipulates and coaches her own attorney in what to say and do. Please there has to be an attorney that is not afraid of her!!! She and her attorney have brow beaten 2 attorneys in the ground already ( the one we did have went to work for her firm!!). Now our female attorney is playing puppy and submissive peeing ("we don't want him to go to jail"). This has gone on long enough! My husband has nothing but depression, he is even afraid of her. He has not pursued visitation for fear of the same thing happening as the child is 13 now has shown rejection. He has been ruined for life from her telling him how bad he is, he doesn't love him, he is a sick person, etc. She has taken the son's money and squandered (international vacations, etc.) and did not go back to work (as an ATTORNEY!) until it ran out now she says she can prove it was a gratuitous gift and he is in arrears (not so according court records all court ordered payments were made and paid 2 years ahead) but not according to her documentation which she has manipulated. She loves this paper trade thing. I am going to keep trying, I guess this is everyones story on here. I need a fighter for this father and son to be reunited and the son to know his father's undying love. (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )
Post # 0000004d
Washington state dad seeks help
Time: 10:56:48 PM
Remote Name: 22.214.171.124
is there a lawyer or child advocate on the olympic peninsula that has experience with this type of situation? ive thought for over ten years that my ex and her new husband have been trying to push me out of my son's lives. this is a very depressing situation, not at all good for the sons.it seems like she hates me more than she loves them, and it clouds her judgement in things. i would appreciate help in the sequim port angeles area. thanks
(Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 00000060
Washington State father needs advise and help bad!
Time: 9:23:12 PM
Remote Name: 126.96.36.199
Well first off thank you for reading this message. I will make this as short as possible, and if you require more information I will be more than happy to give it to you. I was engaged to my child's mother. After we found out she was pregnant she literally went nuts. Since March 2000 she moved out. From almost the day she moved out she has threatened me with abortion if I did not sign adoption papers. She had me meeting with adoption agency and having them contact me at work. Well, since March 16, 2000 was the last time I have spoke to her. I got stood up at a doctors appointment (3rd apt.). Since them I have been in the dark. I tried contacting her May 31, 2000 and instead of getting any form of information I received a restraining order delivered to me at work by a King County Sheriff. I had the restraining order dropped due to the fact she lied, and the judge caught her. I also do not have any criminal history, and I am signed up for parenting classes now. Thank God! Well I got tired of waiting and deiced to go after her though the law. Well after many letters and lawyer costs and a threat to take her to court. September 27, 2000 we got contacted by an adoption lawyer stating if I DO NOT SIGN ADOPTION PAPERS, SHE WILL THEN TAKE RESIDENTIAL CUSTODY. In black and white. Well after that I refused like every other time. I am will to take custody of the child. Now since the forceful way of getting information. The only information is that is was born the first week of October 2000 in Multanomah County in Oregon. That is all I know about my child. Nothing else. I finally got my lawyer's butt in gear to pull her into court. She was also supposed to notify my lawyer of any change and whereabouts per the restraining order hearing. Thank you in advance in anything that may help! Please email me! [E-mail address removed] Thank you for reading this!
(Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 000000c7
Pennsylvania, Chester County, PAS attorney desparately needed
Time: 4:30:28 PM
Remote Name: 188.8.131.52
If you know of any good attorneys for fathers, please let me know. I will write details of our dismal battles as soon as I get a chance.
In the meantime, can you please pray for protection from evil for those in control (the court and therapists), and prayers for strength and widsom for the father (my loving husband) and me, and his two loving children (who change personalities when in court, therapy, or with their mother). Please pray that the children will have the strength to tell the truth to the therapist. In the meantime, I'm getting all the info I can on PAS (I just found out about it yesterday). I will put it with my documentation re: the mother (which the court evaluator totally ignored), and hopefully have even the smallest of success when we go back to the concilliator.
As with most of you, we are out of money and resources, and will not be able to continue to the judge.
Please help us with prayer.
Love, the stepmom
Post # 000000cf
Would like info for a good custody lawyer in Kansas, USA
Time: 2:40:56 PM
Remote Name: 184.108.40.206
I would like a good lawyer for my father, we live in Kansas! Please help!
Post # 000000ed
Re: Pennsylvania, Chester County, PAS attorney desparately needed
Time: 1:14:33 PM
Remote Name: 220.127.116.11
If you want some support from another stepmother in PA facing similar issues, feel free to email me at [E-mail address removed] (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 0000009c
No $$ for a good attorney
Time: 4:42:27 AM
Remote Name: 18.104.22.168
As with everyone else who has posted on this site, I am a non-custodial mom who loves my children more than anything in the world. My ex has had custody of them for the past 5 years. Making a long story very short, I paid my $400 a month in child support yet last May my ex filed another court session requesting an increase in child support and also requested to take away my summer visitation.
Knowing that I had no money for psychological testing and attorney fees, and after agonizing soul searching, I opted to give up my parental rights to my children rather than go through the legal fight and mud slinging he was going to put me through.
I discussed all of this with my children (Tim 15, Stevie 13 and Kyra 10) and let them know that the ONLY reason I was doing this was because I could not afford a decent attorney.
My proposal to my ex was that I would give up all of my custodial rights if he would forgive the $2000 I was in arrearage. This was in October 2000. The day before Christmas, my (oh so cheap) attorney notified me that the Anne Arundel County Court refused to sign off of our agreement stating that this agreement amounted to me "selling my children".
Needless to say, I saw this as God's way of telling me not to give up. So I then instructed my attorney that I wanted to fight this all the way. All she kept saying to me was "The judge isn't going to do anything to help you unless you pay your arrearage" Please...I am not a "dead-beat" parent who won't pay child support....there were extenuating circumstances that resulted in my being unemployed twice over the last five years...which resulted in my arrearages..
My bottom line is this:
1. I have contacted every legislator in both Virginia (where I live) and Maryland (where my children live 63 miles away from me). Instead of assistance, I have received phone calls from the Maryland Department of Child Support Enforcement asking where my arrearage money is instead of phone calls from the Governor, Lt. Governor, Senators and Congressmen that I was looking for.
2. I've come to the conclusion that the only way for me to get any legal assistance is to quit my job, move to Maryland and live in a homeless shelter. There are all kinds of help for you then!
3. "The person with the most money wins!!" And can alienate your children from you when you have put off paying utilities and rent so you can take your children to New York for the 4th of July, skiing for New Year's or for the new Nintendo machine they MUST have...then take back to Dad's when they already have one there.
Thanks for letting me vent. I go back to court on May 17, 2001. Of course its 4 days after Mother's Day..all the commercials for this honored day is killing me...knowing his third wife in 5 years will be getting my Mothers Day cards... I'll let you know how it goes. Linda
Post # 000000c2
No $$ for a good attorney: Went to Court Yesterday
Time: 7:34:31 PM
Remote Name: 22.214.171.124
I finally have seen my children!! After 8 months, I saw them in court yesterday. Though we didn't finish all the court proceedings (scheduled for 7/18) the judge at least ordered that my children were to talk to me on the telephone twice a week until then. After all was said and done for the day (we had been there 6 hours) the judge asked my kids if any of them wanted to talk to me. Expecting that they wouldn't, imagine my surprise when my oldest son, 16 year old Tim said that he wanted to. You could have knocked me over with a feather!
As soon as he approached me he put a bear hug around me, told me he loved me and that he needed me in his life. I burst into tears. All I could do is hug him and cry. Jesus, he smelled the same way he did when was a baby. My baby...
I couldn't stop bawling my eyes out on my way home. All night long, all I could do is smile and say "I hugged my son today".
It may seem small, but this was a HUGE moment in my life. My children are slowly coming back to me.
I lifted the following from the Rachels Promise website. Keep the faith..
"Behold, a sound is heard in Ramah, mourning and great lamentation. It is the voice of Rachel weeping for her children who are no more...
Restrain your voice from weeping and your eyes from tears, for the Lord is pleased with the work you will do.
Your children will return to you. 'There is hope for your future' says the Lord, 'Your children will return to their own land.'" Jeremiah 31:15-17
Post # 0000009d
Re: No $$ for a good attorney
Time: 11:01:31 AM
Remote Name: 126.96.36.199
Linda, the person with the dirtiest attorney wins! I am in the same position right now. Nothing in this attorney game is geared towards the best interest of the children, believe me, I have done my research. You are not a deadbeat! I just wonder how it came about that a few who run away from their responsibility all of a sudden make everybody who can't afford to pay to be considered a deadbeat. Now obviously that is wrong! But the first people who don't want to listen to that are the attorney and the judge. They put a $ Value on the kids, in the same breath condemn you for "selling" your kids, when in effect all you want is emotional peace. I think the system is build on male views and traits. Can anyone put words to the pain you feel as a mother when trying to explain to your children that you can't afford to fight this battle that your father started and now you have to let them go???????? I can relate to you. I understand why you do it. I am close to doing the same thing. Giving up for the sake of peace and love. No one will tell me I don't love or care for my child, but if the system fails us, than who can blame us? I also strongly believe that only in recent years the law has used us women more and more to make us "examples" of equality. Although the fact is we are still making only 75c for every Dollar our male counterparts earn. Have you ever seen a court or attorney consider that FACT? I hope someone will listen one of these days. Reform is needed! But who are we? Just a bunch of women who need to be put into our place! Hang in there Linda! All wounds will heal,or at least we can try like hell to forget and go on. One day someone will have to answer why the children were taken away from their mother. And I hope it will not be a pretty sight! Andrea
Post # 000000c3
Re: No $$ for a good attorney: Went to Court Yesterday
Time: 4:06:47 PM
Remote Name: 188.8.131.52
Congratulations.. I cried when i read your article. It gives everyone hope to read the good things (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 00000011
Time: 1:43:16 PM
Remote Name: 184.108.40.206
I am trying desparately to find a lawyer in the New York City area who is interested in Father's Rights. I had an attorney who obviously cared so little that when we lost the custody proceeding even after the Law Guardian sided with us and relocation of my son, my lawyer blamed me for the loss.
I am desparate and would appreciate any help. Thanks Derek Lacey [E-mail address removed] (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
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