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Can Alienated Parent Seek Publicity?
(to try to fight the other parent's revenge, 
alienation tactics, or false allegations)

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Post #  000004a3
Using distance to her advantage
From: ValGal
Remote Name: 67.171.149.190

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My ex married someone who (I found out once I connected with HER ex, due to some suspicions I had) is a classic alienator. Not only has she severely alienated her son from his dad, she has tried doing the same with my/my ex's son. I only have to deal with her BS occasionally, when she/my ex manage to work around any loophole they can find in our parenting plan ~ it's all a game to them. Anyway, I'm trying to help her ex, who I've stayed in contact with (long story, I'll spare you). Since he lives in a different state, she has the advantage of milking the legal system and weasels her way out of all court dates. He has spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on attorney fees to no avail. His son is 14 now and there is no chance of him seeing him anymore since the legal system has completely failed him and the boy has been so poisoned against his dad. Does anyone out there have ANY ideas as to what the dad can do at this point? I know from my experience that once I make it more painful for her to mess with me than is worth her while, only THEN will she behave. She has no conscience, no sense of decency or fairness. Her power high comes from messing with people. I was wondering if maybe he could do something like write a letter to the editor of our paper and get it published, say stuff in it like the issues people have when they are separated from their child, mention his son's name, not say anything about HER, but just provide some "publicity".  No slander, nothing like that ~ she would jump at the chance to sue him so he knows not to "go there". This is an example of the only sort of thing that would make her back off. He is at his wit's end so if anyone has any ideas PLEASE post here. In the meantime, we just keep praying!!!    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  000004b6
Re: Using distance to her advantage
From: Lindsey
Remote Name: 24.208.147.181

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I know its tempting... But, you can't, or I should say, the papers won't use a minors name in the paper in something like that. A first name maybe.. People like her usually get their way, My husband has custody of his child from his Ex and she is making everyones lives so miserable that my husband is about done with her. (signing over rights- just to get some peace) I cannot be supportive enough, I have tried everything to help him and my stepson but she is just too relentless. I hope this woman isn't as vicious, If she is I feel for you...   (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 000004ba
Re: Using distance to her advantage
From: ValGal
Remote Name: 67.171.149.190

Comments
I just got a new book called Divorce Poison, haven't read it yet but supposedly it gives tactics for dealing with alienators. It's just sickening what they get away with...while us decent people get taken advantage of. We have to out-think them, stay a step ahead of them, predict what they will do next (expect the worse and you'll probably be close!)...trying to clean up the mess afterwards just doesn't work  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

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