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Post #  00000480
Re: being alienated from my daughters
From: Bernie Watson
Remote Name: 198.54.202.2

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I would like to tell Debbie that she is not alone. Even in South Africa, this can happen, as it has to me. I am a good, caring, sober and intelligent, working, mother, but father has power and money and I do not have money to fight him in the High Court. I am not able to talk to my children very often and have only seen them for roughly half an hour in the last two years because their father wanted me to come back to him and threatened to ruin my life if I did not come back and marry him. I did not return because he was abusive and was unfaithful to me. So, Debbie, please believe, I know how you feel. I feel as though my life came to an end but I battled on and eventually met a good man and remarried, but this only resulted in extra anger on the part of my girls' father, who alienated me even more and now wants maintenance for them, although he can afford a grand lifestyle and I have nothing except my monthly salary to barely cover my living costs! Debbie, please e-mail me. I can't talk anymore now because I get too upset and I am at work and can't afford to show this emotion here and now! Regards Bernie     (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000456
being alienated from my daughters
From: Debbie Plummer
Remote Name: 68.45.115.219

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I only have joint legal custody of my daughters , they currently live in michigan with their father who has physical custody, I reside in New jersey now, I am being totally alienated from my daughter ages 11 and 7 by their father , he has no home phone all he has is his cell phone, he will not allow me to talk with my daughters unless we talk because he apparantly believes we have something to discuss, (which would be my son from a previous marriage which he has no legal ties to, but my son does not wish to speak to him due to the fact of all the mental abuse that man has caused. I am told by my ex to stop sending my daughters stupid piddly gifts, with crap they dont need. I need and want my daughters so badly, but unfortunately i come from a family that does not have much money i can not afford to get legal help in this matter, Desperately in need of any advice anyone can share with me. My daughters want to be with me as when i was able to speak to them they kept asking me how much longer until they can come live with me and when am i coming to get them, Their father is a mentally and physically abusive man , I am scared to death of him, and even more scared for my daughters, Please anyone with any advice would be much appreciated , all i know to do is keep writing my letters to the friend of court and petitioning the courts. Thank you for anyone who takes the time to read!!   (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 0000045d
Re: Parents allowing minor children to drink
From: Concerned mom
Remote Name: 66.214.216.135

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I have a picture sent to me by my ex who has my teenage daughter with him now and it does appear as if she's got a cigarette in her hand. I wish there was something to be done about this. If I ask about it I get shut down. I'm with you about not allowing kids to smoke until they are of age to choose for themselves. Parents should not let these things go on. Its like condoning fighting, or many other things parents are responsible for teaching there children not to do.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000502
Re: Parents allowing minor children to drink
From: Also Fed Up
Remote Name: 68.101.251.38

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I have this problem with other members of our extended family. I have come to the point where I have decided to not associate with most of our family. I also ran into the problem at a going away party for a French foriegn exchange student I had. The coordinator allowed for under-age drinking (not wine with dinner) with-out parental consent. I left, and I left my student there.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  000005fe
KRIGHTSRADIO.COM the place for PAS discussion!
From: Doug ddsd1104@aol.com
Remote Name: 64.12.116.201

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Anyone struggling with Pas can now pull together and make their voices heard ! This is a true broadcast focused on the rights of those who matter most.......THE CHILDREN....what a worthy venue and cause for such an epidemic within our society. Lets replace the moral fiber of our society and understand Both parents matter. In a world of moral decay lets work together through this tremendous venue of opportunity. MAKE NO MISTAKE these people at KRIGHTSRADIO.COM are truly out to expose a terribly corrupt system that attempts to alienate parents......listen in Friday at 7 to 9 cst this week and play a key role at bringing PAS to the forefront of our legislators ! again it is KRIGHTSRADIO.COM    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 0000087b
Re: KRIGHTSRADIO.COM the place for PAS discussion!
From: We appreciate your efforts! Thank you!
Remote Name: 207.200.116.200

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Thank you for your efforts in bringing our voices out to be heard. Hopefully, somehow, we can bring these voices together and make a difference. Doesn't seem like many return to this discussion page, but it does seem to keep accumulating.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  00000497
Re: Parental Alienation Brainwashing
From: a custodial parent
Remote Name: 24.208.147.181

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Lucinda, You say that the child has already lost the NCP so they realize they have to make a choice and think like the CP. It is not always true. I am the custodial parent, I believe that my son should have a relationship with his mother. But, she is not stable, she has BPD and uses her brainwashing to get my son to think that I do not care for him and I only use him as a tool to get back at her. I have never kept him from her and have given her more time than the courts ordered. I could care less what she does in her life as long as it does not interfere with his growing up as an upstanding person. I do not talk ill of her to him or around him and do not discuss anything that her and I talk about. On the other hand she tells him every little detail of any disagreement, court proceedings and makes up stories of when we were married. She talks about me like a dog to everyone who will listen. In front of my son. My previous babysitter asked her to leave her house for saying horrible things about me in front of my son. She works him up into a frenzie (crying and screaming) when it is time to return him to me like it is the last time she will ever see him. After she leaves he is fine.I have never moved in the last 5 years and I own my home. So, It's not a likely factor that I will just pack up and go. Anyone can use parental alienation against their child, be it the CP or the NCP. So, please do not put us CP in all the same catagory. Some of us believe that getting along is the way it should be, but unfortunately some parents thrive on chaos and torment. Most of us would just prefer to get along. It makes everyones life easier. I just wish my Ex would get help but it is not likely to happen anytime soon. Just remember although there are some cases when a custodial parent should not have custody there is usually a reason or in fact many reasons we CP do have custody.    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  00000501
is 6 years too long away?
From: realdad
Remote Name: 207.215.248.247

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6 years ago no warning she takes our child from me and leaves now court just dismissed my petition im in LA shes in NY i didnt take court as serious as i should im pro per and now i got to write objection letter within 2 weeks no picture or voice contact after i was sole custodial parent at one time...its all love!    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  00000466
Re: Oh my Gosh! Please help me.....UP-DATE!
From: Renie
Remote Name: 64.28.61.40

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My son wants to pay for his children (2 boys) that live in Iowa. California child support division garnishes half his paycheck for support and in one years time he owes 20k in arrears. His debt is 1200.00 per month and he only makes 900.00 so he can never get caught up. He doesn't get to see his boys and his ex will allow him to call on Sundays between 4 and 5 and if he misses he must wait until the next week. This hasd been so hard. Without alot of money for an attorney we feel hopeless! Any advice. Thanks
(Last changed: February 26, 2006)  

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Post # 00000579
Re: Husband's sons have been alienated
From: Devoted Mother
Remote Name: 210.49.210.49

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Hello. I am at the end of many years of litigation, only to find that "it" still continues. My son is not yet a teenager but the step-mom has made darn sure that my boy call her "mom" and any mistakes on my part are met with venomous hatred from my son. We have a great time when we see each other but i cry myself to sleep everynight since i lost custody of him earlier this year. I know your husband loves his boys. My life moved on but there was so much antagonism that even that new start became a nothing. I am so sad. But i live in hope because i know i didnt sexually abuse my son or any other abuse for that matter. But i still had to fight in court to prove my innocence. And i am a mom. Stay devoted to your husband. He will need all the love he can get. It is really lonely without it.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 00000674
How to help daughter cope ?
From: Mom2
Remote Name: 69.174.153.142

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Long post, but hitting hilights only. PLEASE help me! My husband is getting ready to try and gain physical custody of his 10 yr old daughter. She is currently livnig in a very unstable household with her 1/2 brother, mother and mother's boyfriend. The brother's dad is also seeking custody of his son. The mom refuses to work and lives off of child support by the 2 dads and gets food stamps only because she lied to the state to qualify. The boyfriend has a $9/hr job and pays $50/wk in child support for his 2 kids. They live in a VERY BAD neighborhood. Boyfriend is abusive both physically to mom and emotionally to kids. Mom has been diagnosed bi-polar but doesn't take meds. She drinks heavily. Kids and mom are scared of boyfriend but when we offered to get mom her own place on our dime with no strings, she refused. Mom's family has history of severe mental illness (brother commited suicide in schitzo frenzy). Kids have symptoms of mental problems mom REFUSES to treat. Son's dad live 5 miles away, we live 600 miles away. Mom was great mom until she got hooked on booze and online sex chat rooms. Then moved in with this boyfriend suddenly 1 yr ago. Things have gone downhill VERY FAST. But since there's no marks, there's no "abuse" in the house. Anyways, my husband is finding out that she is (and always has) told their daughter many horrible things like "your dad just left us here and went to Korea and then moved far away from us." Truth was, dad was in Army and didn't have a choice in the matter. Mom had an affair, got pregnant and divorced him without him knowing until it was final. He was still in Korea. She's convinced this 10yr old that she cannot survive without her help. This child feels like the house will crumble if she's not there to help mom grocery shop. But mom isn't outright alienating dad YET. Because of past history and how mom grew up, we fully expect her to start trashing dad. (This little girl is 100% daddy's little girl, and we hope that helps, but mom's very powerful.) As soon as she finds out that he is going for custody, we expect her to start doing whatever she can to make his daughter hate him. She's also doing stuff with the son (like telling him "tell your dad that he doesn't WANT to play baseball on his side of town." Son says "Dad, I really want to play ball over here, but mom says I have to tell you I don't."). Mom's deep in the cycle of welfare/ abuse/ instability/ mental health problems. From grandfather to mother to her. She was abused (physical and sexual) as a child. Her mother refused to allow her to see her father out of revenge. Her mother is bi-polar but on meds. Her mother always milked the welfare system for all she could. These are traits we DON'T want passed on to my step daughter. She has said she wants to live with us and then says not to take her away from mommy. We don't want to put her through this, but we know we HAVE to for her sake. We don't want mom out of her life, but we want her to have a chance. Mom is doing all sorts of very bad things and her daughter is learning those lessons too well. We plan to consult with child psychologist before we explain to his daughter what is about to start happening (as far as the custody process). We know she has a right to know the truth and want to explain things in 10 yr old speak before mom puts her spin on things. We have NO DOUBT things will get really ugly from the mom's games. We expect mom to say things like "Your daddy is just doing this to hurt me." "This is all your fault for trusting your daddy and telling him things." "Your daddy just doesn't want to pay me money any more." etc etc. These are the things she is capable of and we have seen it in the past when they have fought over the years. We are sure that mom will stop allowing my Step Daughter to visit with his side of the family that is local. Right now, he daughter spends at least 2 weekends a month with her aunt or her grandmother. What can we do to try to ease the pain she will soon start inflicting?   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

 

 

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