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Kids Hate Mom, Kids Victims of PAS

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Post #  0000066c_Children hate their mom


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Children hate their mom!!!
From: Nancy Smith
Remote Name: 151.198.148.214


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My friend divorced her husband and ever since, has belittled, threatened and bad-mouthed her in front of their three children. He was waiting for any opportunity to get back at her. One day her son, (diagnosed ADD/ODD) got out of control and she lost her temper and hit him. He ducked and unfortunately hit him in the face with her ring. The husband called the police and DYFS got involved. They took the kids away and she is only allowed supervised visitation two days a week. The kids are victims of PAS and she's ready to give up. After six months, DYFS has determined that abuse has not been substantiated and it's now a custody battle. The father has convinced the kids to hate her and they don't want to live with her. The kids ignore her and the one son even records her on his camera phone for the father. Her daughter is best friends with my daughter but when her father or brothers are around she won't even acknowledge my daughter. She's only seven years old and it breaks my heart. Her attorney has put in a motion to have the ex-husband evaluated by a forensic psychologist. Has anyone gotten full custody of their children from a PAS parent? Is it possible? She lives in New Jersey and would appreciate any info or guidance. Nancy   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000671
Children hate their mom!!!
From: Milwaukee Dad
Remote Name: 69.210.97.211


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Nancy: The cold hard truth is- no. The system is set-up like this. The forensic psychologist/psychotherapist and lawyers have set-up a high price referral system. No one bucks the system. The judge will not rule against anyone because it is political suicide for them. PAS is not offical diagnosis, but it is there just as the sky. Reason being they can't bill for this diagnosis. The most easily billed diagnosis during something like this post traumatic stress disorder for the kids, and for the target parent abusive behavior towards the kids. And the other parent goes on their marry way playing the protector. Pretty sick! You want to get sicker- for every dollar of child support they get; they get a dollar from the feds, this year they are taxing on a additional $90 a year to the one who pays child support for hidden expenses. The hidden expenses are people who try to sue the GAL or psychologist, but the court protects them. Good luck.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 0000066e
Re: Children hate their mom!!!
From: lisacirig@yahoo.com
Remote Name: 141.158.218.163

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First of all let me begin by saying that your friend is very lucky to have your support. Encourage her to never give up. Her story sounds very similiar to mine. She must vow to hold her ex-husband accountable for his lies and his actions. It may take a long time...but in the end we must believe that the truth will prevail. PAS is something that the courts and lawyers are currently being educated on. The evaluation of the husband is a very good start. Your friend and her children will probably also be evaluated. My ex, children and I are in that very same process. Tell her about the web site so she can clearly see that she is not alone. I would be happy to talk to her to discuss the steps that I have taken to fight an ex-husband who is quite guilty of PAS. she must fight the good fight...be honest...document everything...and surround herself with people who love and support her. I wish her the best and will pray for her. My e-mail is lisacirig@yahoo.com.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  Post # 00000672
Re: Children hate their mom!!!
From: Nancy
Remote Name: 151.198.141.75

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So basically your telling me there is no hope????? I believe the father also has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Even before they divorced he was like this. Do you think this is something that will help get the children away from him? Thanks. (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # Post # 00000673
Re: Children hate their mom!!!
From: snuz2luz
Remote Name: 64.12.116.196

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yes, time will allow the kids to see the truth. All you have to do is be there for them and be supportive. It's the hardest type of patience I've ever had to learn, but it's finally paying off.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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