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Difficulties with persons who 
seemingly have a "Narcisstic personality"

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has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: [removed] 
Remote Name: 150.142.234.147

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Post # 000006a7
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 64.136.27.225

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your frequent posts from a health organization make me wonder if you are writing a book or working on a school project...My ex wife does not qualfy as narcisstic but her mother, Patricia McManimon and her sister Mary Mcmanimon-Garland have all the tendencies of the classic narcisstic personality disorder.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 000006a8
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 64.228.227.16

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My present spouse who is the non-custodial parent has been victimized with PAS by his ex and her new spouse. Although both have been diagnosed via two psychological expertises as having "cluster B" type personality disorders and this being considered factual in the eyes of the court, the wheels of justice grind terrbly slow. Both are considered Narcisistic and also with Borderline and Histrionic tendencies. Just wanted to let you know that I have read some literature on the subject and it is not uncommon for these obsessed alienators to be stricken with such 'B' type personality disorders. Since the severely alienated child identifies strongly psychologically with the alienating parent, they also possibly could develop a similar disorder. More reason to fight for your child/children since their future mental health is at stake. Educating the judge who is presiding over your case about the real dangers of severe PAS should be your attorney's top proirity for a sucessful outcome. GOOD LUCK!!!   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 64.12.117.9

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My ex who alienated my son from me and continues to try to alienate my other two from me is the POSTER BOY FOR NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER and his new wife definitely has a personality disorder, possibly borderline.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000006fb
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 64.12.117.9

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Yes! I didn't know what had hit me. Thrown into the mix was Jehovah Witness religion that I had originally thought was harmless. I found out long after the process had started. I am emotionally and physically wrecked and have no place else to turn to. Please tell me your story.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  000006d9
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
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Remote Name: 213.122.93.112

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my brother was married to a narcissist. he lost his freedom and his kids.I am seen as athreat and can't even have contact with them. I want to rebuild a relationship with them and my boys want to regain contact. but we aren't allowed near them.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000857
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty
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Remote Name: 205.188.117.68

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I am married to a man who is narcisstic and yes..it is hell..I try to allow God to work on my own healthy boundaries with him but it is hard..Email me if you would like support..Thanks..Amanda.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 0000073f
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty?
From: [removed]
Remote Name: 150.142.235.46

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my daughter hangs up every time i call....which has been over 2 years now, i have acknowledged birthdays, holidays, etc. with cards...and some gifts....i don't believe in sending money. any feedback,,,,my communication has been completely cut off except between attorneys, i have vague visatation,in the order it states: upon consent of mother and daughter when deemed appropriate,,,she is only thirteen ,,,,i had primary physical custody up until 2 years ago when she claimed false abuse.....no food in the house, i was yelling at her and i was never home,,,cps investigated and unfounded.....i am broken in pieces with a broken heart   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  0000073c
Re: has anyone here been married to a narcisstic personalty?
From: [removed] 
Remote Name: 67.165.255.19

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I was with a man who is a sociopath with narcissistic tendencies. I feel and know after extensive research and 13 years on and off therapy at different times in my life, mostly after having to deal with him, (I made the mistake of having a child with him, he forced me she is sixteen now).  If it wasn't for her I would have ran and even changed my name if I could have. Ever see sleeping with the enemy? That movie convinced me I needed to leave to save my soul and my life. I, also due to financial reasons left my then three year old with him. I was so scared, and he had me so convinced that he would never leave me in peace, I believed him and still do because he has tried to hurt me too many times through her, but he has no power over me now.  I could write volumes of what he did, but do not feel that this would help.  If you feel different I am happy to share to reassure that you are not alone. What I can tell you is this, there is no such thing as winning or losing. I know deeply the pain and lonlieness that you feel, how some ignorant people may judge you, but mostly how much you unfortunately must judge yourself. I do not know your story, because I haven't found it on the postings maybe? My first rule is to love yourself! If you feel that you cannot, fake it until you make it! Do not look outside of yourself like I did, I had a lot of "boyfriends" mostly nice, but I did take some chances with my health and heart. Find a good open-hearted older therapist who has had children. Try several if needed.Get out in nature and focus on doing things for yourself use your time to heal and get stronger, because I have learned that it is never truly over or too late. I do not know the terms of your visitation, hopefully you have SOME. Call, Send cards, small gifts whenever you can and even tapes, dvd's or videotapes of you, pics of you and whatever you come across as something that will mean something special to them. Never show your feelings towards him, (your-ex) and avoid explaining yourself or defending yourself when or if they ask hurtful questions because if he is a narcissist the children will constantly talk of him, they will be his supply, and he requires admiration or is on the other end of the spectrum he lacks empathy for anyone and can try to show you up at all times. He is the perfect one who looks so good to authority because he knows how to lie and you do not.  That is where mom who lost got me, it is hard what you were up against, but is not impossible. Keep quiet with them no matter how much it hurts and then go home and journal to record everything and also to release. Keep detailed records if you can keep it from letting it drag you down. Sometimes it seems that it is easier to just escape, but your children will want to know you believe me. Do not ever give the lies that he will feed them credence by acting out digging for information or stop contact. I hope that this helps. Please let me know.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000000a6
Convoluted psychopath
From: [removed]
Date: 5/21/01
Time: 10:04:39 PM
Remote Name: 209.4.43.157

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CONVOLUTED CASE. My husband has not seen his son for 9 yrs., son refused... when he was 5 (he has had no male father figure just a gay grandfather). The mother (attorney) has brainwashed him to believe there was sexual abuse (she is the one who was abused as a child), ran public ads and other stuff.  Child believes it (in front of her psychologist 9 yrs ago). Never proven in court it was a "strike that your honor" move. Then showed the child where it was "filed" in the complaint (no merit).  X-wife knows all the moves, tricks, timing, papertrade, etc. She manipulates and coaches her own attorney in what to say and do. 

Please there has to be an attorney that is not afraid of her!!! She and her attorney have brow beaten 2 attorneys in the ground already ( the one we did have went to work for her firm!!). Now our female attorney is playing puppy and submissive peeing ("we don't want him to go to jail"). This has gone on long enough! 

My husband has nothing but depression, he is even afraid of her. He has not pursued visitation for fear of the same thing happening as the child is 13 now has shown rejection. He has been ruined for life from her telling him how bad he is, he doesn't love him, he is a sick person, etc. She has taken the son's money and squandered (international vacations, etc.) and did not go back to work (as an ATTORNEY!) until it ran out now she says she can prove it was a gratuitous gift and he is in arrears-- (not so - according court records all court ordered payments were made and paid 2 years ahead) but not according to her documentation which she has manipulated. She loves this paper trade thing. I am going to keep trying, I guess this is everyone's story on here. I need a fighter for this father and son to be reunited and the son to know his father's undying love.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)  

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Post # 0000004b
OBSESSED EX! HOW DO YOU PROVE IT?
From: [removed]
Date: 9/16/00
Time: 6:28:21 PM
Remote Name: 205.188.197.158

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I HAVE 1 9 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER, WHICH HER DAD WANTED NOTHING TO DO WITH HER FOR 4 YEARS, NOW WE HAVE JOINT CUSTODY, HE DOES NOTHING BUT INTERROGATE MY DAUGHTER, OF MY HUSBANDS AND MY LIFE, BRIBE MY DAUGHTER WITH POKEMON CARDS, AND SHOPPING TRIPS TO THE MALL IN RETURN FOR HER SILENCE, HE TALKS TO ALL OF OUR NEIGHBORS, AND OF COURSE SAYS NOTHING GOOD, NOONE BUT ME THINKS THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THIS, HELP. EVERYONE THINKS HE IS THE PERFECT DAD, IF YOU CAN PROVIDE ANY INFORMATION, I CAN SEEK HELP I LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING IT!  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000073
Re: OBSESSED EX! HOW DO YOU PROVE IT?
From: [removed]
Date: 1/6/01
Time: 1:49:44 AM
Remote Name: 208.151.106.176

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TELL HER YOU LOVE HER, DON'T EVER BAD MOUTH DAD AND DON'T COMPETE WITH HIM. SHE IS THE BIGGEST VICTIM OF ALL AND SHOULD NOT BE PUT IN THE MIDDLE. MOST OF ALL, BE READY TO LET HER GO, AND I KNOW BETTER THEN MOST WHAT THAN MEANS, BUT FOR YOUR OWN SANITY AND TO GET HER OUT OF THE MIDDLE YOU MAY NEED TO DO IT. HANG IN THERE YOU SOUND LIKE A GREAT PERSON.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 0000004f
Re: OBSESSED EX! HOW DO YOU PROVE IT?
From: [removed]
Date: 9/24/00
Time: 3:57:09 PM
Remote Name: 38.26.241.156

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Document everything! I have seen it in other replies to different PAS situations. The court system is for the birds, but documenting everything (from phone calls, to visitations) is better than nothing, especially if the other parent has nothing to show against your allegations. Just explain to her that keeping secrets is not permitted and try to show her that if her father is keeping secrets and doesn't want her telling you anything, but in turn wants her to tell him everything, you're 9 year old should be old enough to see that something is wrong with this picture.  Good luck from someone who knows what you're going through!   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 0000007b
Re: OBSESSED EX! HOW DO YOU PROVE IT?
From: [removed]
Date: 1/31/01
Time: 11:06:53 AM
Remote Name: 208.187.114.57

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There is a site called narcissism revisited by Sam Vaknin and also a support e-group called Nmagnennts Anonymous that has helped me more with this kind of behavior than anything else.  If you are dealing with an ex who is an "N" they are stealth abusers and masters at crazy making behaviors while covering their tracks. I can't recommend this site enough if you are involved with an obsessive alienator. Hope this helps you or anyone else who feels like you do. Hang in there. Janine  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

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