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Parental Alienation by Ex and Stepdad 

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Post #  0000048e
alienation I think I need help
From: bretzkywarriner@cs.com
Remote Name: 198.81.26.76

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my ex-wife and I been divorced for a year now. She has re-married and her husband are always talking bad to the children about me. In the last 6 months as long as she has known him, i call to speak to my sons and all i get is F@#K YOU, DONT F#@$ING CALL HERE i need help is that alienation   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000494
Re: alienation I think I need help
From: A Dad who knows.
Remote Name: 24.208.147.181

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Take her to court. You have rights too. Do you have visitation? You should be allowed at least twice a week to speak to your child by phone. You need to have a detailed custody plan. Talk to your lawyer, you need to think ahead. In your papers you need to plan for things you might not forsee. Like, Papers that leave anything open for interpritation. A time to speak on the phone that may conflict with things, like her having a extracurricular activity and not being home. The excuses can be many for her not allowing you to talk. Don't leave any open. Make it unable for her to give a reason to not be able to talk. You are allowed to visit your child at school. So do so if you want. No one can stop you, Bring your divorce papers to your school. Unless stated in your papers, you can visit. I know this for a fact, schools do not want to get in a domestic situation. You have rights! Don't forget that. It is your child also. Make sure you leave no details out of your paperwork with your attorney, you can have anything added, even if it sounds strange. Like, not allowing your child to have a tattoo without your consent. If you feel your ex would do something like this or anything else, you might find apalling you need to add it! I cant stress enough that it all has to be in writing! Otherwise, you have nothing to fall back on. I hope this helps! From someone who has been there. I will make sure this time to have all the details in my paperwork! Signed- Here we go again!  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 0000050a
alienation I think I need help
From: A friend of a dad
Remote Name: 206.38.38.154

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Can you specify in the order about who they visit with, thier mothers family all have crimial background and dad doesn't want them exposed to them, thats what started the whole custodity battle. Daughter at this point hates father, still has good relationship with son.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  00000498
Re: alienation I think I need help
From: s robertson
Remote Name: 65.202.230.243

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what specific details r u referring to be included in the court order?   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000004a5
Re: alienation I think I need help
From: ValGal
Remote Name: 67.171.149.190

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I totally agree with your response, and wish to impart to everyone in this discussion forum who has suffered at the hands of an alienator, it is VITAL to get a court-sanctioned (or otherwise enforceable) parenting plan that covers EVERY scenario you can possibly fathom (school, medical/psychological, after-school activities, visitation, etc.) because if you don't, I can guarantee you that the alienator will take advantage of anything you leave out. They have no conscience, otherwise they would not be subjecting their child to the MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE that results from bad-mouthing the other parent, not letting the child see the other parent, etc., etc. Please protect yourselves and your children by getting an enforceable agreement!   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  000004b3
Re: alienation I think I need help
From: A Dad who knows
Remote Name: 24.208.147.181

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Read my post. Its is a few replys up. It will give you a few details to what I mean. You have to be very specific in the rules you want to be enforced. You can even place a particular bedtime on school nights if that is something you firmly believe in. It all has to be in writing to be enforced. Granted there are some things that you will have a hard time proving if they are not enforced, but it will be there if you need it later.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

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