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Parents' Rights & Responsibilities with 
Alienated Children over Age 18 years old

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Post #  00000b6f
Parental alienation syndrome in young adults
From: Grieving Mother
Remote Name: 216.135.39.196

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My exhusband waged a vicious war against me during our divorce and after. He convinced my older children then 16 and 20 that I was a bad person. In fact, I realize now that I wasn't being paranoid when he would have little chats with our children that didn't include me until all three emerged into the kitchen where I was washing dishes or something. My ex would always tell me to never mind what they were talking about and my daughter would always comment on how nosy I was. I suffer from recurrent bouts of major depression and anxiety. My ex went behind my back telling family, friends and church members I was schizophrenic. My mother and sister told me he had told them I was schizophrenic later into my divorce and I was dumbfounded. He berated and belittled me through 26 years of marriage and for his lawyer during the divorce he found the a lawyer who helped him with his vindictiveness with the intensity of a rabid dog. I blamed myself and even thought of myself as a bad person for awhile until I finally started wising up to what was really going on. He involved our children making them his confidantes and told them outrageous things like I was a satan worshipper which I have to admit was the icing on the cake. Because men have in the past been the victims of parental alienation syndrome a lot of them like his lawyer and other men I've talked seem to think what goes around comes around and that it is about time for women to suffer the way men have. It's like indiscriminate killing because of something someone else has done. Because of my exhusband I have been arrested, my daughter has treated me liked dirt for the past three years and her new husband is my husband's pal now because he is a police officer and showed my ex how to get me tangled up in the law. He didn't like her fiance until he found out he could use them. Now I am grieving the loss of my daughter. It has taken great courage but my son has a relationship with me. Parental alienation is a sin and needs to be recognized as a criminal act.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000b73
Re: Parental alienation syndrome in young adults
From: mom who has a broken heart
Remote Name: 150.142.239.230

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i have experienced the same as you....you are not alone at all....sometimes i am totally numb from this...it feels like death...and part of my soul is gone, i really can't even discribe it..its horrible.. i cry every morning in my bed thinking about it ...i have two girls ages now 14 and 21...they both refuse to speak to me ...fyi,,my ex was abusive through our 18 year marriage...  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 00000b8b
Re: Parental alienation syndrome in young adults
From: another alienated mom
Remote Name: 152.163.101.9

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I am also grieving the loss of my daughter, I have not seen her for 8 years, and whoever said time heals all wounds has never lost a child. 
(Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #   0000057a
Re: PAS after children turn 18
From: richbansha@lycos.com
Remote Name: 68.230.34.137

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Experts? BAH! The bare fact of the matter is that the war is over -- you lost. What I have to tell you and everyone else is the harsh truth, but the truth, nevertheless. Save your postage. You never know if a restraining order is out against you. The birthday present your child gets will be to laugh at you while you are in jail. In the unlikely event that your children contact you in the remote future, it will be only for money or to bring you to harm. Never forget that that was how they were raised. You should treat them as a suspicious stranger -- for that is what they truly are.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  00000599
Re: PAS after children turn 18
From: why56202004@yahoo.com
Remote Name: 65.29.28.39

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I can understand what you're going through, my fiancee's daughter has alientated him, has had a baby, and now refuses to let my fiancee to see his grandchild.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000562
After 18
From: S.S.
Remote Name: 68.20.245.66


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Are we obligated to pay for schooling after the child turns 18? What if we can't afford it? I'm divorced and remarried have total of seven children his, hers, and ours. My son has aleinated me about 5 years only calls when he is in need of something (money help). His mother never remarried but lives with a man about three years now. Since she has met this man she has lived the rich and famous life style and I can't do or even match what he does for my two children, but she (ex) expects me to give them all. Please give some helpful advice. I've told my wife we will have to file bankrupcty if i have to pay his schooling. We have one child who paid and is still paying her student loan off because we couldn't help her and our other child is going to enlist in the Navy. I feel this child can also find ways to get his education paid for.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  0000056d
Re: After 18
From: angryatthwrld
Remote Name: 68.14.90.78

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I know in massachusetts, the law states that child support, if ordered, is to be paid so long as the child is in school and making every effort to get an education, even after 18, and I think it covers them until they're 22 or 24, but YES, if dad is court ordered to pay, some states regulate beyond 18 yrs old.
(Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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