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Post # 00000462
parental alienation
From: Mld620@prodigy.net
Remote Name: 4.239.201.131

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I am writing today because I am a victim of PAS. I was researching some things about my situation and came across this information, which I have found to be very informative. I feel as though an injustice has been served to me and my children because of the lack of funds I have to get the representation that is needed. I have had every door slammed in my face and my frustration is growing deeper. I am saddened by the fact that a court of law can not or will not allow me an opportunity to present my case. My son is now thirteen years old, it has been since July that he has been living with his father and seperated from his other siblings. His father falsely accused me of abusing my child, which were later unfounded. He used this tactic to gain custody of our child who I had been raising from birth. My son suffers from ADD which he is not being treated for and makes the situation all the more worse. His father has mentally and sometimes physically abused me and my children including Michael. I have not even had the chance to present my case as the judge won't hear it. Michael has lied for his father and when asked why he said what did you want me to do? I feel bad for my son that he is experiencing this. I also feel bad for my other children as they won't have had the chance to grow up with thier brother.  My son has already changed so much and is acting totally out of character. I have been praying to God to please let my son come back to me. The story is more detailed, but i'd probably be here all night telling the story. I would just like to talk with other parents who are experiencing this so that I don't have to feel all alone. I am grieving and in pain a lot. I need to get stronger so that I can do some thing to change mine and my childs circumstances. Thank you for listening. Michelle L. [last name removed]    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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00000471
parental alienation
From: Cammie
Remote Name: 24.143.21.239


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This website is very informative. I have tried to find information on this subject but did not know the proper terminology. I have two sons who are 12 & 14 and have lived with their father since they were very small. It was not suppose to be this way. We have always had joint custody but at first I was the custodial parent. I then had to move from the small Wyoming town we lived in as I could not support my sons and I on child support alone and jobs, especially for woman were very hard to come by. When I informed my ex that I was leaving the state he tried to get me to give him full custody of our boys. He even had his lawyer draw up paperwork which I refused to sign. He then got an order from the court stating that the kids would remain with him for 6 months until I found employment and housing. I was okay with that. However, I should have know there was something up. During the 6 months I was gone he rarely let me talk to my sons. He constantly threatened and harassed me. After the 6 months were up, he did not let me have the children. He kept telling me that I had to do this and I had to do that before he would "let" me have them. I played his game for a while and then finally left everything that I owned, including my car and a house full of furniture and took a bus from California to Wyoming to get my kids. It didn't work. Not even with an attorney. Now he has the boys believing that I chose California over them and has chosen not to recall the 6 month deal that is part of our divorce decree. He tells my sons that I am a liar. He tells them that I don't care about them and that I don't pay child support, which is untrue. He has also told my youngest that I don't care about him because I have not paid for his braces. I have paid $1200.00 of the $1700.00 that I owe. He gets to make monthly installments but I had to pay the entire balance right away and could not do it. Now my boys will not speak to me on the phone. The don't want to spend their designated weekend with me and are constantly coming up with "plans" with their friends that they don't want to miss out on. I am so depressed and full of guilt. I am tired of fighting with my ex but I refuse to give up. I love my children, they are my world..  (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 00000488
Re: Parental Alienation
From: 
Remote Name: 205.188.116.69

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Lisa, I live in Alameda Co., and my husbands ex is in Kansas. His 11 year old son moved in with us in March because he "couldn't take it anymore". I'm going to look for some advice here in CA because she has absolutely torn our lives apart. I'll share any info that I get. Debbie  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000536
Re: Parental Alienation
From: frustratedmom
Remote Name: 64.35.203.24

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I can totally relate to what you are going through. I have three daughters, two of which have been totally alienated from me. The pain is almost unbearable most days. I am now fighting for custody of my youngest daughter, she is 14. The legal system has only made the matter worse, now she is in the custody of her father and I have limited visitation. We all must remember that we are dealing with highly manipulative people who can also be successful with their manipulations in court. This is the worst form of child abuse there is, and no one recognizes it. Hang in there and try to live one day at a time. If I think of not seeing my daughters grow into women, I could not go on. I too love them so. Good luck.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  0000054e
Re: Parental Alienation
From: KDMARSHALL2@YAHOO.COM
Remote Name: 66.64.217.146

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NEVER GIVE UP!!! I KNOW THAT ON SEVERAL OCCASIONS I HAVE FELT THAT WAY TOO. BUT I KNOW I AM A GOOD MOTHER AND MY DAUGHTER AND I NEED EACH OTHER. THAT KEEPS ME GOING.   (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  0000064a
Alienation
From: codyneil@juno.com
Remote Name: 4.240.165.234

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My son was taken by my wife in 1999, hidden and abused for 3 years by DFS's own reports. Child was abandoned by "MOM" with DFS in January of 2002. State concealed the child for 7 months before notifying custodial DAD in direct violation of statutory authority. The courts have now said that my failure to support him while being concealed is grounds for termination. As a disabled parent the state need only apply for childs benefits. SSDI will not allow me to apply since he is not in my care. SSDI is not charity as the state has asserted, it is insurance taken from our pay in case of injury or disability. Since the state won't apply, I can now lose my son as a result of their inaction. How can this be right? This places every limited income parent at a severe disadvantage.    (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

 

 

 

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