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Post # 00000691
Topic:  Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: Wisconsin Dad
Remote Name: 152.132.8.194

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Joshua and Jenna [last name removed] Hi Guys: I want you two to know that we were victims of Parental Alienation Syndrome. Please do a web search and you will find out what is Parental Alienation Syndrome. I haven't given up on you two, but I have exhausted all my resources to keep fighting. The people who helped with my fight have lost their jobs over this case. You ask who, well her name is Tracey [last name removed], she was a social worker for Milwaukee CPS. I don't know were she is now but her helping us cost her dearly. I recently, went to see the court appointed lady named Anne Beyers, she said she would help but she hasn't called back in over 2 months and hasn't returned any of my phone calls. The GAL Paul [last name removed]told me that if I would just admit to something I didn't do he would assist me, but I'm sorry guys, I will never admit to something I didn't do! No matter what. I have the proof that your mother lied, yes lied about everything. Something else you two should know about Waukesha Courts, divorce is big business. I'm going to tell you how it works. First off it is a referral system, no therapist goes against another and lawyer doesn't buck the system because then he or she will not get referrals from the therapists. It costed me over $5000.00 to get my lawyer to get Dr [last name removed] on the stand to admit that your mother lied. But by that time you two were angry and blamed me for everything. You ask why we don't see each other despite everything being a lie, please look under Parental Alienation Syndrome. I'm going to tell why I stopped seeing you with supervision. I was seeing a Child Psychiatrist who was helping me understand what you two were going though. Guys everytime I would reach out for you two your mother would do more harm to you guys. It is called psychological abuse, I was given a choice; A- do I continue on with the fight and watch you two become victimized by psychological abuse/maybe physical or B: Grieve the loss of you two, like a father grieves the death of his children. I choose to spare you two the ongoing abuse you two faced everytime you came by me and when you two left me. I kept a log of that first year of our separation, I logged every phone call, every conversation I had with everyone, and what they said back. I offered it to everyone but no-one wanted it, including the judge per my lawyer at the time. I could go on guys but I'm going stop here. I want you two to know that I love you both very much, and your always in my thoughts and prayers. If by chance you two want to find me, remember that there is a [last name removed] Family that you two have been alienated from by your Urlakis Grandparents and your mother Jean. Love Always DAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000007ba
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: Your Stepmom
Remote Name: 68.47.115.128

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Hello kids, I am writing this letter to tell you how very important both of you are! Although I have never met you, I love you both VERY much :) I have and always will stand by your fathers side, and wait for you to contact us. As you have read in these letters, you were both the victims of Parental Alienation Syndrome from not only your mother- but also from your grandparents. Your father has written why we don't see you right now- it is because of your mother, and the Wisconsin court system. Don't doubt for a second how hard he has fought for both of you! You both have a family on your fathers and my side who love you very much and pray that you are healthy and happy. We wish only the best for you. I have watched your father cry when he reads the journals he has kept for you to read some day- to know the truth of why you were taken from him. I feel his pain everyday and night that you are not in his life. Please know that there is plenty of love to be shared in our home for both of you! I love you, and pray that you are safe. Kim [last name removed] (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000692
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: A sympathetic dad
Remote Name: 66.44.197.106

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Wisconsin Dad, I fully understand about not admitting to one thing you never did. If you admit to one thing, then you might as well admit to all the lies, distortions and fabrications that never took place. Hold onto hope, whatever little you can find. You're in my prayers, my friend. (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )

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Post # 00000693
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: snuz2luz
Remote Name: 152.163.100.12

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I'm a mom but my story could be imprinted on top of yours and you wouldn't see any difference. It's amazing how the family courts continue to cause damage to the ones they profess to want to help the most, ie, the children. My ex actually abducted my son twice now and nothing has happened to him. However, the son has finally seen through his dad and renewed our relationship of his own free will. My daughter will too as soon as she's done spending dad's money or it runs out. What she doesn't know is that he's actually spending her own money. As always, it's the kids that get hurt the most and even tho I backed off so they wouldn't be caught in the middle, they are still in the middle as dad continues to blame them now as he once did to me.
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Post # 00000694
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: Jon & Krystal's Dad, Steve in OR
Remote Name: 65.182.231.117

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US too, sounds like what is/has happened between US. No matter what I say, she is always right. Please PRAY for US, Jon & Krystal's Dad, Steve in OR, we have another court date on the 17th. We had mediation on the 3rd. I have felt like so often righting a letter like that to my Children. My Ex says she tells the kids that I Love Them, but I have (had) some problems, but they were fixed when we got divorced.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000697
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: A sympathetic dad
Remote Name: 66.44.197.106

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I hear the hurt, the anger and the pain, a I know every bit of it. The result of a sinister plot is to shine a spotlight on you and make you prove yourself to be the perfect parent, with no flaws or shortcomings whatsoever. I don't know about the rest of you, but I'm only as human as the next person, but I'm not the evil person I've been made out to be by my former spouse. I have to believe that somewhere in the recesses of my childrens minds, there are some good and happy memories. Sometimes I want to ask my ex, "Why did you, Mother Theressa, marry me, Adolph Hitler, in the first place?" You're all in my prayers, and don't think for one minute that you're going through something that other people haven't experienced. (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000699
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: Tina
Remote Name: 216.12.74.148

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Hi Wisconsin dad ...my heart goes out to you... I too last month wrote my 2 boys (almost 17 now) a letter similiar to yours. However, still no response. Sorry I have nothing good to say because just like you, I'm still waiting for the answer as to why or how this happened? Well, unfortunately we know "who" is the cause but it's like fighting a losing battle no matter what we do! Who can we turn to for help when the courts won't even help us??? A big thanks to this wonderful website for allowing us to cry and get our feelings out in the open about our wonderful "missing" children! (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 00000add
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: Aunt J
Remote Name: 67.131.20.241

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I wish I could think of something profound to say that would possibly make a difference. I am saddened by such antics. The only thing I can do is pray for my brother and to ask God to protect his children from any harm and abuse. With faith and love always. J (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000006d2
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: A true and faithful friend
Remote Name: 141.106.128.4

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Nice letter ... how will they contact you if they find this letter? (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000006d4
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: Wisconsin Dad
Remote Name: 152.132.8.194

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[last name removed] isn't a common name, they will find me through the family.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000007b1
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: Greendale Dad
Remote Name: 152.133.7.129

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Since my last update to you Wisconsin Dad, I saw Joshua and Jenna at the Southridge Mall with their mother, they didn't look very happy. I was playing tennis the other day at the community center off a 76th Street, and I played against one of your old neighbors from the village. He was very surprised that I knew you, but he stated, that he was told that you molested your kids by his neighbors Joan and Patrick. He also told me that Patrick told him that he doesn't go over to his inlaws house because he can't stand them and the kids are very rude. Needless to say your old neighbor is shocked about you not being able to see your kids or even find out how they are doing in school. I gave him this web site and if he wanted to write you he should do it here. He said him and his wife think about you and the kids doing the [last name removed] train with the bikes and just laugh about it! Take Care...... my prayers go out to you and your wife.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post # 000006f6
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: A cousin/ A neice
Remote Name: 68.167.111.218

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Uncle J- Your fight for justice and love have not go unnoticed! You have given so much to your family, country, and the needy, God will reward you! Even though my brothers and I grew up in VA with Mom and Dad- you have been a part of our prayers and lives for as long as I can remember. Admired, loved and respected by all of us. Hugs & Prayers I Love you to you and Aunt K! For Jenna and Joshua- I remember your smiles and the love you shared with your father, I pray that one day you will remember those too! Jenna- I am your Godsister- if you ever need an older sister, I am here for you sweetie! Josh- my brothers admire and love your father as much as they do our father. If ever you need older brothers, there are 3 in VA waiting to help.  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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Post #  000006cb (duplicate 000006cc)
Re: Letter to Joshua and Jenna [last name removed]
From: Greendale Dad
Remote Name: 152.132.8.194

Comments
My heart goes out to you and your children, your situation isn't uncommon in Wisconsin. I'm sure this whole thing seems so unbelieveable, but it isn't. Your kids go to school with my kids off of HWY 36. After reading your letter I make it a point to look for them when I pick up my kids after school, the times I have seen them, some older lady, I assume it's the kids grandma urlakis, grabs them at the doorway and takes them to a vehicle somewhere behind the school. They look alright from a distance, my wife and talked about your situation and remember you at the soccer games watching your kids and hearing the other soccer parents talking about you and saying things that you did. I asked one of those parents the other day if they believe what they heard before now. They simply said "no, I can't believe she got away with it." I want you to know that people- well, some of them know the truth. I heard from the grape vine you got remarried. Congrads, they also told me that she can keep up with you on your long distance runs. Me and my wife wish you and your new wife the best and the brightest future, but one thing I want you to remember, they are only fooled for so long and they will seek you out. Use the internet... hint....hint....  (Last changed: February 26, 2006)

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